The hardest thing about raising any number of children is keeping up with their hearts. With as many as we have, that is a full-time job! We try to have individual heart-to-heart talks with each one of our children living at home on a regular basis. It is important for parents to learn how to ask their children the right questions and not have a condemning attitude toward them. Children need to know they have a safe place to share their hopes and dreams, challenges and mistakes. This creates a very close relationship!

The questions listed in this free PDF download are an invaluable tool that we have used as a guide in conversations with our children! They have helped deepen our relationship with our sons and daughters, and given us insights into their unique needs.

As we grow in our knowledge of God and love for Him, one of the most important roles given to a parent is to communicate the truths of God to our children. “Thou shalt love the Lord thy God with all thine heart, and with all thy soul, and with all thy might. And these words, which I command thee this day, shall be in thine heart: And thou shalt teach them diligently unto thy children . . .” (Deuteronomy 6:5–7).

In order to effectively communicate God’s truth and love to our children, we must establish a healthy, loving relationship with them. When our hearts are turned toward them and their hearts are turned toward us, we can grow together in our walks with God! (See Malachi 4:6.)

Take time to get to know each of your children. Set aside time just to ask questions and listen! Don’t teach or answer with your own ideas, just ask more questions. If you need to, write their answers down in a notebook or on your phone.

After your time of sharing, talk and pray with your spouse about the things you learned during your bonding session. Discuss some goals with your child or spend time talking about one of the questions. Develop projects or thoughtful responses based on what you learned about your child’s interests. Fellowship with our children is a lifelong pursuit as we grow in following the Lord together!